He Flashed “I love you”!Posted: December 22, 2011
Caleb looks great!! His heart is beautiful. Perfect, actually. His hands (which are normally a tell-tale sign of trisomy 18) were…perfect. Most of the time in trisomy cases they are clenched together and very tight. Caleb’s were open and very relaxed! He even flashed me the “I love you” sign!! He was very active (if you know our other two kids at all…this is not a surprising find :)) and all measurements are right on target! In fact, he’s measuring a few days bigger! Everything…his face, his lips, his feet, his kidneys, his heart…everything….perfect!! It seems the odds are now a mere 1:10,000! Quite the answered prayer!!! Thank you!!!!!!
The genetic counselor made us realize we could be that “1”. She told us about 2 cases she has personally seen where the babies only had these same two markers but did, in fact, have trisomy 18. The only way to know for sure if he has trisomy 18…is by birth or an amniocentesis. We were offered a amniocentesis by the genetic counselor which lead to a whole set of questions of what if’s and what would you do if…Even though we thought we knew exactly how we’d answer these questions…I think when you are forced to look at “worst case scenarios”, a true test of faith comes in. It is easy to be scared. It is so easy to want to rely on your own understanding. To seek your own solutions. To take matters in your own hands to avoid pain and it gets a little harder to trust that God has a great plan for everything even if He never “let’s us in on” the reasoning. It is hard to believe that “God would give us more than we can handle”.
The Biblical truth is that we will endure more than we can handle in this life.
2 Corinthians 1:8-10 says,
We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God
I do not know how Mike and I could make these decisions (if we actually had to make them) if we didn’t have our faith and God’s word to look to turn to, lean on and trust.
We decided the results of an amnio would change nothing for us…and it seems the odds for risk are greater in that procedure than they are in a chromosomal abnormality so we declined and the perinatologist who preformed the ultrasound supported our decision.
Because Caleb has just the one artery…we would love it if you would continue to pray. As the doctor put it…it’s like a kidney: one is fine unless something goes wrong with the one you’ve got. We need this artery to stay healthy, functioning and working double-time.
I am sooooooooooooooooooo grateful that Caleb is as wonderful and healthy as he is and we did not have to endure incredible pain today and I praise God for that. I hope to the bottom of my heart that if the news were any different today…that I would still praise Him because our God is good. Always good.